I'm not the same - and that's okay! Choosing to open new doors.
I’m a great believer in slowing down over the summer even if you aren’t on holiday. In fact, especially if you aren’t on holiday! One of the ways I’m doing this is by revisiting some of my older blogs, tweaking them for a revisit rather than writing brand new ones…
Cast your mind back to this time three years ago. We were still living with social distancing, face masks and very confusing quarantine rules but with the promise that by the end of July all restrictions would end. On 30th July I was sitting in a breast surgeon’s office with my mum and heard the words “I’m really sorry but as we suspected it is cancer and it’s reached your lymph nodes.”
Over the next ten months that was one of only two appointments where I was allowed to have someone with me. My surgery was booked for just ten days later and in order to prevent it being delayed I had to shield. And so as the world opened up again my world got much smaller. I’m not going to bore you, or me, with all the details but what followed was ten months of surgery, chemo and radiotherapy. During that time I missed my nephew’s First Holy Communion and my sister’s wedding. Thank goodness for churches with webcams!
It was brutal, but necessary and I got to the end of that ten months grateful, but broken. On my last day of radiotherapy I took chocolates and a card for the lovely team looking after me and when they realised it was my very last day of treatment two of them took me down the corridor to ring the bell. One to take a photo and the other to clap me because I was of course alone – thank you covid!
Why am I telling you all this? Because the last three years have taught me so much. Not least the fact that I’m not the same and never will be again. And do you know what? That’s okay. It really is. I’ve got to explore who I am now and what I truly want in life. And I encourage anyone else who has been through a massive change in life to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong I loved so much about the old me and my life and I needed a time to mourn some of those loses. But, here I was with a chance to reassess, to reinvent myself, to work out who I am now and what I really want from life and I took it with both hands.
Instead of running at that locked door, trying to shoulder my way through it I looked in the other direction at the many doors I could choose to walk through. All with keys available for me to open and explore. I’ve learnt to say, “I’m not the same…and that’s okay!” and I can teach you to do the same no matter what life has thrown at you.
If you too are sick of trying to force your way through a firmly closed door, then don’t forget that until 31st July I’m offering my Jump-start coaching package at 50% of its usual cost.
Since I wrote that blog 12 months ago I have undertaken an additional qualification in therapeutic coaching. This has given me so much more knowledge and understanding of issues such as trauma and our nervous systems. About how our brains work and how to peel away those layers of societal and familial expectations allowing us to be radically authentic. I can help you to really consider who you are now and what’s next. I can help you to make long-lasting changes in how you think, feel and behave.
If this sounds like something you’d like to experience then book your Jump-start coaching package before the price goes back up on 1st August. You get a potent 90 minute coaching session followed by two weeks of virtual support and then another 30 minute coaching session. The usual price is £397 but between now and 31st July you can buy the package for just £198.50. And at the end of your fortnight if you decide you want more coaching support I take the cost of your Jump-start off the cost of whichever coaching package you decide is for you. Click this link and use coupon code SUMMER50 at checkout to secure this price.
Purchase your Jump-start before 31st July to secure this price. You can then book the actual session at a time that is convenient for you.
