Over the last two years I have published over 100 blog posts and I thought it was about time I provided you with easy pointers to some of the most useful and most popular posts to help you to grow your confidence, clarity and courage to build that happy and fulfilling life we all so desire. So here are pointers to ten of my most useful posts – even if I do say so myself! Five on doing the inner work and five on taking action.
Read MoreSpring is in the air. The days are getting longer, the spring bulbs are bursting with colour and I’m so glad that the clocks will be springing forward to British Summer Time in just over a week.
As the season changes I find it a really good time to check in and see how I’m doing with my intention for the year and I encourage you to do the same. As I shared in January I chose joy as my intention for 2022. After lockdowns followed by a cancer diagnosis what I want more than anything else this year is to feel and experience joy. I chose not to put that intention on hold until after my treatment finished, instead I wanted to start looking for and experiencing joy as much as I possibly could.
Last time’s round up of books to help you grow your confidence proved so popular that I thought I’d follow up straight away with four more recommendations so here we go. This week I have books to help you with creativity, business, rest and happiness.
Read MoreI am an avid reader. I get through 140 plus books most years. In fact it was more like 200 in 2021! Every now and again I’ve recommended a book here on the blog and in episodes 10 and 20 of the podcast I provided a roundup of books I recommend. As I’ve never done that here I thought I’d remedy that today! And, if like me you enjoy listening to your books all five of these are available as audiobooks.
Read MoreThe last couple of years have taught us that being resilient is so important, enabling us to cope with the curve balls that life throws at us. I explored this topic in my podcast in November and want to share it with you here too.
What is resilience?
According to the Oxford dictionary resilience is the ability to recover quickly after something unpleasant, such as shock or injury. The American Psychological Association goes further saying, “As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.”
We’re three weeks into a new year. The run up to Christmas is a frantic time for many of us and as we launch headlong into the new year it’s very easy to get swept up into all the good intentions of New Year resolutions, health kicks, new term, new projects…the list goes on. It’s also a time of year when the days are short, there are coughs, colds, flu and worse doing the rounds and if we’re not careful we end up sick, burnt out and thoroughly fed up. As such I thought that it would be a good time to revisit something I wrote about the importance of me-time.
Read MoreHappy New Year!
Here we are. A fresh new year. In my last blog and in episode 30 of my podcast I talked about the benefits of choosing an intention for the year, usually in the form of just one word so it’s easily memorable. I also promised that I’d share mine.
So, this year my intention is JOY!
The big day is almost upon us. Are you all done or still running around buying gifts and food and wrapping presents? Even though I’m writing this early I can confidently say that by the time you’re reading this I will be done as I’m due to have chemo on 21st and whatever isn’t done before then won’t be getting done!
As always as we approach this last couple of weeks of the year my mind turns not just to Christmas but to the New Year and thoughts about what my word, my intention for next year will be. I usually use the time between Christmas and New Year to make my decision.
One of the things I like the most about Christmas is not the day itself or the presents but the anticipation!
There can be so much joy in anticipation if we allow ourselves to experience it. Often it’s half the fun. The anticipation of a holiday is as lovely as the holiday itself whether it’s your annual summer getaway or the time off you’re going to enjoy over Christmas.
It’s that time of year again. It’s a month since the clocks went back and only a month away from the shortest day. I have made no secret of the fact that I find winter tricky. Seasonal affected disorder means that my mood can take a nosedive and my anxiety levels rocket. Not fun. Regular readers will know that every season I choose to be intentional about the things I want to savour and enjoy. This is especially important to me in winter to look after my wellbeing and mental health.
Read MoreAs this blog is being published on 11th November – Remembrance Day I thought it would be a good day to revisit something I wrote a couple of years ago about remembering those who’ve gone before us.
In my spiritual tradition the whole of November is dedicated to remembering and praying for the dead. We celebrating All Saints’ Day on 1st November and All Souls’ Day on 2nd November. These are important feasts when we remember those who’ve gone before us.
This may sound morbid but in fact it's a great celebration to honour those who we have loved and have left this world. It's also such a good opportunity to remember and honour what they left with us.
I have to confess that I’ve never been a huge fan of Halloween. As a child we played duck apple and trying to eat the sticky bun hanging from a string with our hands behind our back. It was never a big thing in our house. There was no trick or treating, especially at that time here in the UK the trick or treaters expected to be given a bit of spare change rather than sweets so it was basically door to door begging in my parent’s eyes! I never felt I was missing out. There was not lots of talk at school about who was dressing as what or of parties. It just wasn’t a big deal.
That said I’m not a complete killjoy. I love seeing children enjoying themselves at Halloween, dressed up, accompanied by a responsible adult calling at the houses that have decorated for Halloween. That seems to be the code in our local area. The children can knock at the doors and yell “Trick or treat!” as loudly as they like at the houses where they have put the Halloween decorations up. I have to confess to really enjoying the year that my sister dressed my then two-year-old nephew as a pumpkin and let him answer the door to the trick or treaters. That and the Halloween episode of Peppa Pig! Best Halloween ever.
At the beginning of April last year when we were in the very early stages of lockdown I wrote a blog with this same title. I was reflecting on how much things had changed so very quickly. How so much we thought was within our control turned out not to be and the effect that was having on me and those around me. For some people turning to food for comfort was a thing. For others, like me, it was a struggle to manage the normal three meals a day thanks to the stress and uncertainty.
I decided to focus on the things that I could control. To ensure that how I spent my time, what I chose to eat and drink would nourish me and help me thrive in difficult circumstances. I could control what I read, watched, who I video called etc. I could also choose to exercise daily and get out in the fresh air and daylight.
I choose to be intentional each season as it’s so easy in the busyness of life to miss out on the things we love because we assume that we’ll get around to it at some point but before we know where we are the summer is over and we never did get that walk on a beach or take that Sunday afternoon bike ride through the woods or visit the pick your own fruit farm. If we aren’t careful the things that could get done at any time end up not getting done at all.
A couple of autumns ago I called my blog “What will bring you joy this season?” and I’ve asked myself the same question today. No matter what is going on in my life what little things are going to bring me joy that I’d rather not miss?
It’s a new season and as I shared in episode 21 of my podcast, Unlock Your Confidence with Clare Walsh September feels like the other New Year – a chance for reflection and a fresh start. As such I have revisited my manifesto – my why and as we have so many new people in our community I thought it would be good to share it with you too again.
Read MoreIn last week’s podcast episode I talked about how for many people September is the other New Year. In the northern hemisphere the new school year begins and it feels like a new start as life begins again after the lazier days of summer.
Whether you have been away this year or spent your summer in your own garden or local park it is often a time when we stop and consider our lives, just like we do over the Christmas and New Year holiday. In the past I've referred to this as sun lounger ponderings although given the fact that the British summer can be far from sunny at times they don’t always take place on a sun lounger!
In the episode I gave you some concrete ways you can use this time to reflect on what you want and move yourself forward with your goals. I’m aware that not everyone is a podcast listener so I thought I’d share more in today’s blog. And, if you have listening to the podcast – thank you – and now you have a handy written guide too!
Read MoreI love this time of the year. I make no secret of it. I love the amount of daylight we get and the warmth. Even a wet British summer can’t dampen my spirits. In June when I wrote about what I wanted from my summer I called it “Are you making time for the things that bring you joy?” I want you to ask yourself the same question today. And if you aren’t what small action could you take to ensure that every day you do something that brings you joy? That makes you appreciate life.
Read MoreWe live in a world of noise. Even in lockdown when we were at home and there were less cars on the road and planes in the sky and so the world was a little quieter we were able to fill that void with news, music, tv, podcasts, radio, video calls, audio books and on my estate an almost constant noise of power washers and lawn mowers during daylight hours.
Last May I shared…I’ve been going out for daily walks. Most days with my headphones in listening to a podcast or audio book. On Easter Sunday I was out at lunchtime and took out my earbuds and for the first time in all my daily walks I couldn’t hear anything at all but the buzzing of insects and singing of birds. Not a single engine – no distant car or train. No lawn mowers. No human voices. No dogs barking. Nothing but the insects and the birds. I live in a large housing estate on the edge of a very big town. It was profound. It was an experience probably never to be repeated without being in the depths of the countryside.
I’ve been telling myself that walking the same streets every single day for nearly two months now I need a book or a podcast to stop me getting bored. But is that really true? Am I just trying to hide from my own thoughts?
I’m passionate about helping women to lead the life that lights them up now, not at some undefined point in the future. To do that we have to be able to listen to and trust our own inner wisdom and that means listening to our own thoughts.
“It’s not all about massive transformations, little transformations make a massive difference!”
One of my clients said this to me a few weeks ago and it really got me thinking. She is so right. I think a lot of people think that choosing to work with a coach is about having a massive goal and wanting to make a huge change in your life but this couldn’t be further from the reality of coaching! My client hit the nail on the head. It is those little transformations – the changes in your thinking, behaviour and understanding of yourself - that added together make a massive difference to life.
The women I work with come from all sorts of backgrounds. Employed, self-employed, out of work after redundancy, mums looking to return to work, women who’ve just been promoted, women starting or growing businesses or side hustles, the list goes on. And these women range from their early thirties to their sixties. I love the variety. The common theme is a desire for confidence and clarity in order to move forward and that’s what motivates them to invest the time, energy and money in themselves. What is the difference between them and the women who keep telling me and themselves that they’d love to work with me, to do my course or group coaching programme but they just can’t find the time or the money?
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